Parenting is hard and even harder when you’re unsure what to do. You might have a parenting style that works well in certain situations, but that doesn’t mean it’ll work the next time around. That’s where counseling comes in!
Counseling can help parents get advice on how best to handle their children’s behavior or deal with their mental health issues. This article will discuss some common issues that parents seek counseling for and how these concerns could be addressed with help from a professional counselor.
1. Blended families
Blended families are common. When you add up the number of divorced or separated people, it’s clear that many adults have been through a difficult breakup and co-parenting arrangement. People are remarried, re-engaged, and even dating again — so it’s not unusual to find yourself in a blended family situation at some point in your life.
This can be challenging: how do you juggle two sets of parents? How do you choose which holidays should be spent with each family? What about when there are stepchildren involved? Thankfully there is help available from counselors explicitly trained to assist with these issues!
A counseling session may also help if there is a conflict between members of your blended family — perhaps over – dividing holiday time or child custody issues (this can happen when both parents have children from previous relationships).
It is common for parents to experience feelings of sadness, anger, or anxiety during and after the end of their romantic relationship. If you have recently gone through a divorce or separation, there are likely many issues to deal with at this time.
Keeping in mind that your children need you to be present for them as much as possible during this time, it is crucial for parents to consider their well-being when deciding how they want to proceed with their life following the divorce or separation from an ex-partner.
While it is vital to consider your own needs and desires, it is equally important to consider how this will affect your children. It is not uncommon for parents to be in conflict with each other when dealing with these issues. While it may be tempting to focus on this aspect of the divorce or separation, doing so can cause parents to forget that there are children involved.
3. Children with additional needs
A parent of a child with additional needs can experience many challenges, including the following:
- Learning what is available to your child (and you) regarding therapies and other forms of support.
- Finding out how you can best help your child to do things that might be difficult for them.
- Dealing with your feelings about being a parent of a special needs child.
“Kids don’t come with instructions. Often, despite our best efforts, we often feel as though we’re two or three steps behind, just trying to keep up with the demands of parenthood”, says Piper Walsh, a parenting counseling expert near Orange County, California area.
Counseling sessions can help you feel understood and supported by someone who knows what it’s like, either because they have been through similar experiences or because they are trained in helping people who are going through similar experiences to yours.
4. Single Parenting
Single parenting is a tough gig. It can be isolating and stressful, and it’s easy for a parent to feel like they have no one to help them out when things get tough. There are things you can do to make your situation more manageable, though:
- Be realistic about your expectations. Single parents need support from their family, friends, community, and even employers — but if you’re expecting someone else to do everything for you while you sit back with a glass of wine all day every day (or vice versa), that may not be realistic.
- Find support networks within your community. Whether it’s other single parents who live near you or organizations that focus on helping single parents learn how to raise happy children without the help of two loving parents (like us here at Counselling Services), there are resources available if you’re looking for them.
5. Parental Mental Health
Mental health can be challenging for any parent due to the overwhelming responsibility of caring for another human being. It’s important to know that you’re not alone if you feel that way and seek help from others.
Similarly, your mental health can affect your child in ways you may not realize. When starting a conversation with your children about your mental health concerns, be sure they understand that they did nothing wrong and that this is not their fault. Reassure them that you will be okay and tell them how much they mean to you. Letting your child know how much their love means can be one of the greatest gifts you can give them during difficult times.
6. Differences in discipline methods
You and your partner may disagree on what disciplinary techniques are best for your kids. For example, spanking versus timeouts, yelling versus talking calmly, sending them to their rooms versus taking away privileges like electronics or going on long car rides (if they’re old enough).
It’s essential that both parents agree on how to discipline the child so that they can be consistent with them throughout their upbringing. You don’t want a child who doesn’t know whether he’ll get punished if he hits someone or not!
If you’re struggling with any of these issues, we urge you to seek help. We know it might be scary at first, but we promise that it will only get better from there. It’s so important to remember that no matter what problem you’re facing, someone else has been through it, too, and can help guide you along the way.